Christian Resource Centre


| Author: Dele Oke

Before taking the plunge

You think you have found the right person to marry. You have both known each other for a considerable length of time. You are fairly confident you know all you need to about your partner and you are sure you are in love.

Here are a few questions worth asking yourselves before taking the final plunge. If you are meant for each other the answers won't end your relationships but they should help you prepare for a lifetime of marriage together.

Pastors and marriage counsellors might also find these questions very helpful for pre-marriage counselling.

The important thing to remember is that there are no right or wrong answers to these questions. Answering them honesty with each other will only help in building a strong foundation for your marriage.

Each person should give the other an honest answer to these questions.

    About your faith
  1. Would you consider yourself a Christian?
  2. How did you become a Christian?
  3. Is your faith important to you?
  4. How does your faith affect your views on


  5. Did your parents have a happy marriage?
  6. How do your think your parent's (or guardian's) marriage has affected your view of marriage?
  7. Since when have you had a desire to get married?
  8. Have you been sexually active before?
  9. Have you been married before?
  10. Do you have any children?


  11. Why do you want to marry me?
  12. Do you consider marriage a permanent relationship or something that can be broken?
  13. Do you want to have children?
  14. If yes, how many?
  15. How soon would you like to have children?
  16. What other passions do you have in life?